Now that Huff the Tot is two, she has reached an adorable milestone where she says “No” to everything I ask her to do. (Please note the sarcasm.)
She’s getting older which means she’s starting to need more discipline. Which I absolutely hate. Its seriously a daily struggle with me asking myself, “Do I want to make my kid cry?” or “Do I want my kid to grow up to be a jerk?” Typically, my child is tears. Some days I don’t feel like fighting–and yes, you can call it laziness if you want to. That’s basically what it is.
I know I need to be consistent with my discipline. I know that my child needs boundaries. I want her to be a kind-hearted person with good manners and not a little brat. But I also haven’t yet found what discipline works best.
I’ve spanked her before, but sometimes I feel like that is counter-productive. For example, if she hits me or kicks me while I’m changing her diaper and I spank her leg and say, “Don’t kick!” or “Don’t hit!” does that send the wrong message? (E.g., You hit me so I’m going to hit you back.) Plus, after I give her a spanking, I feel like the worst mother on the planet.
Time-out doesn’t really help. It just sort of extends the meltdown. And then everyone in the house has to deal with a tantrum-throwing toddler.
I have noticed that when I get down to her level and tell her in a low voice that her behavior needs to be corrected (i.e., “We do NOT throw rocks” or “It is time to clean up”) she listens. However, this is not always the case. And when she doesn’t listen and flips out, it takes all that I have within me to not scream and cuss and punch the wall.
So, I guess what I’m getting at is this: How do you keep your cool when your little one acts like a turd? What discipline style do you use? What has worked? What hasn’t worked? If your kids are grown, what is something you wish you had/hadn’t done? Share in the comments below!
(Also, a very happy birthday to the BEST mom in the world–mine! Happy Birthday, Mom! Thanks for not scarring me as a child with your discipline techniques! 🙂 )