Mommy Monday

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I’ve been in summer mode the past week–no major plans (sans the garage sale I had over the weekend; worst idea ever), no real schedule, and pretty much just doing whatever and hanging out with my tiny humans. That being said, my house has kind of been a pit lately.

I know that a lot of you have your kiddos home allllll day long now that school’s out and I’m sure your house will be pitted out soon as well. Which means we can ALL relate to this video from The Dad:

 

SO. TRUE.

Her’s Day Thursday

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On Her’s Day Thursday, I highlight incredible women. And guess what? Today, I’m highlighting YOU. Yep, you, momma! The hard-working, diaper changing, soccer uniform washing, tear wiping, teenage sound board that is YOU. You are amazing!

So many times in this journey of motherhood, we get wrapped up in the stress, worry, and hardship. We think we’re not good enough and spend our evenings before we fall asleep telling ourselves we should’ve been more patient, should’ve read that fifth book, or should’ve allowed our teen to go to that party. We think we’re doing a terrible job and wonder what our kids think of us.

Your kiddos love you exactly as you are, where you are. They don’t care if you didn’t make a Pinterest-worthy snack for after tee ball. They don’t even notice if you haven’t lost the baby weight. And let me tell you that they probably rejoice when you’re too tired to cook and opt for pizza instead.

Don’t believe me? Check out this inspiring video from Care.com:

 

See yourself the way your kids do!

Mommy Monday

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As soon as I sat down to write this blog, my son ran up to me. “Momma! MOMMA!” I turn my head and see he is completely naked from the waist down. Oh, and what’s that on his tushie and legs?

Yeah, it was poop.

His dirty diaper was about five feet away.

I frantically grabbed him and kept him at arms length so I could get him cleaned before I started to clean the poop from the carpet. That’s basically life with a toddler. For a more in-depth look, just watch this Thriller parody by Vintage Marquee Lights…

 

Its pretty much like that.

Mommy Monday

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So, the day after Thanksgiving Huff the Tot got the tummy bug and thought that Mommy made a better vomit catcher than her bucket. Yeah. Seriously.

Naturally, I assumed the rest of us were going to get it. A week passed and nothing happened so I figured we’d dodged a bullet. Then on Saturday, I woke up with a sore throat. And white spots on my throat. Sunday, the same things happened. I hit that sore throat hard and thought I had turned a corner. Little did I know that the germs had also turned a corner and decided to go south. Yep. You know exactly what I’m talking about.

Because of this, Mommy has been moving a little slow today while also scrubbing every inch of this house with Clorox wipes. I’m completely convinced that one of my sweet little germ bags gave this to me. Because those kids share every germ imaginable. The gals at I Mom So Hard know EXACTLY what I’m talking about:

 

Here’s to a healthier holiday season!

Mommy Monday

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If you haven’t been on Facebook, Twitter, the Internet, to the grocery store, or watched the news lately then you probably haven’t heard that there was a total solar eclipse today. This is quite a big deal as another total solar eclipse will not happen again for another seven years.

While I think its cool in a, “Hey, there’s a solar eclipse. Neat.” sort of way, I’m not too hyped about it. There are some things, however, that feel like they happen every seven years–because they’re so rare–that I do get excited about. For example…

My family all eating the same meal, without a fight.

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Normally, I make Huff the Hubs and I something and then the kids get something else. Because I know that they will throw a big ole hissy fit about eating salmon or some kind of chicken that isn’t golden brown and dinosaur-shaped. But, there are rare occurrences when I say, “Too bad, so sad,” and errybody has to eat what I cooked for the grownups and it actually goes well!

All the laundry baskets empty AT THE SAME TIME. 

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Most days I get about 1-2 loads of laundry done and then they sit in baskets until laundry overflows in said baskets and I’m up folding clothes until midnight. But, once in a blue moon, I get laundry washed, dried, folded, AND put away ALL in the same day. Its glorious.

My children sleeping in past 7:00 a.m.

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No matter what time my kids go to bed, they are almost always up right at the stroke of 7:00 a.m. They could’ve gone without a nap the day before and didn’t fall asleep until 10, but rest assured, they’ll be saying, “Mommmmmmaaaaa!” before I can hit snooze. There are some times, though, that they sleep until 8:00 and I’m actually able to do stuff. Like, drink coffee before it gets cold and actually eat a healthy breakfast.

Wearing a white shirt the entire day without spilling something/my kids rubbing food on it.  

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I don’t buy white clothes. Not only because my kids can attract any mess within a 1-mile radius, but also because my nickname is “Messy Jessie”. So any time I can wear a white shirt without dropping a drink or a meal on it, I feel pretty accomplished.

Only having to ask Huff the Hubs once to take out the trash. 

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Calm down, I’m not going to get into a husband-bashing debate. But come on, all you wives out there know what I’m talking about. You’ll ask your hubby to take out the trash after dinner. And then again after the kids’ baths. And then again after you’ve tucked them in bed. And then you’re both laying in bed and you say, “Honey, did you take out the trash?” So when it only takes ONE TIME to ask and it gets accomplished, its basically the same feeling you get when you find $20 on the street.

Eating a warm meal. 

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You know that scene in A Christmas Story when the mom sits down to eat but can’t even take one freaking bite because her family keeps asking her to get them stuff? Yeah, its funny because its true.

Going to the grocery store without enduring any meltdowns. 

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“We just need a few things. We won’t be long.” HAHAHAHAHAHA! Famous last words. The grocery store and I are not on the same page when I bring the kids along. Why can’t they have a drive-thru?! Why must they put all the candy by the registers?! Its like they WANT you to fail. Sigh. So whenever I can go through the store quickly and without a major meltdown, I feel like a total bad-a!

 

What about you? What “rare occurrences” would you add to the list? Share in the comments below!

 

 

 

Mommy Monday

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Something I’ve been working on lately is trying to not freak out about every little mess the kids create. I know what you’re thinking, “But Jessica, you seem so easy going…” Oh yeah, I’ve got patience for daaaaayyyyssss….(#sarcasm)

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I think I’ve come to grips with the fact that the living room and my kid’s rooms will never be sparkling clean for more than ten minutes at a time and that my car will perpetually have goldfish cracker dust and chocolate milk splatters everywhere. But when it comes to dirt/mud/grass/anything that should stay outside coming inside, well…that’s a whole different story.

The other day Huff the Tot wanted to play outside. Even though it had been a little rainy the day before, I figured it would do us all some good to get outside. I grabbed Huff the Babe’s bouncy seat and we all went outside for some sunshine. While HtB played happily in his seat, HtT was running around, looking for butterflies. I decided to get some steps in and just walked around the yard. It got quiet and I looked over to see HtT digging in the mud and using it to “paint” on the fence. Her pink pants were now a lovely shade of brown up to her calves and her hands were caked in mud.

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I was about to say, “Stop! Get out of the mud! You’re making a mess!” but I stopped myself. She wasn’t hurting anyone, she wasn’t in any danger, and I reminded myself clothes can be washed. Instead of scolding, I walked over to her and said, “Hey sis, whatcha doing?” She looked at me and, for a moment, I think she thought she was going to get in trouble. When she saw I wasn’t freaking out, she smiled wide and said, “I’m painting, Momma! Look! Its us!”

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My heart was so full! A moment later, my resolve was tested again. Huff the Tot eventually grew tired of the dirt and started swinging on her new swingset. Suddenly she jumped off and shouted, “I HAVE TO GO PEE PEE!” and ran to the back door.

CRAP! I thought. She’s going to get mud everywhere and I’m going to have to clean her off and ack! I gotta get the baby! 

Being the control freak I am, I ran and grabbed her up before she could go inside.

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I had her kick off her flip-flops and let her go to the bathroom. “I’ll be there in a second!” I called to her. “I need to get Bubby inside!”

A million scenarios ran through my mind and they all came to the same ending: there was going to be dirt and mud everywhere. I knew there would be a teeny little footprint path all the way to the bathroom as well as handprints on the walls. (Try to keep a threenager from touching the walls with dirty hands. See how THAT goes for ya…)

After I got HtB inside and settled, I went to the bathroom to help HtT. This is what I saw:

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I very easily could’ve freaked out. My head immediately went to: “She’s going to be soaking wet! She shouldn’t be sitting on the counter, what if she fell?! Great, now I’m going to have to clean the sink for the second time today…” But, I took a breath.

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Again, she wasn’t in any immediate danger. She was doing something helpful. She took it upon herself to clean herself up–my kid was exhibiting initiative and independence, how could I possibly be mad about that?!

I didn’t get on to her. I grabbed my phone, snapped a pic and said, “You’re doing a great job cleaning up!” My daughter beamed at me and said, “Thanks, Mommy! I’m a good helper, huh?”

It did my heart good to see my kid so excited. Would she have been so willing to be helpful had I gotten on to her outside and put the kabosh on playing in the mud instead of letting her just be a kid? Thankfully, I won’t know.

Now I’m not saying I’m perfect because lawd I know I’m still a control freak and like things done a certain way. And I may not ever be 100% okay with mud, dirt, and gunk. But, for now, I will revel in my tiny victory and use it as motivation for next time.

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Here lately, I’ve been trying to make a conscious effort to teach Huff the Tot about kindness and empathy. (Daniel Tiger is a GREAT resource for this! Plus, that kid has a song for errything!) I want her to be mindful of others as well as of her own emotions. I picked up a few books from the library, but this one was my absolute favorite:

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Its called, Have You Filled a Bucket Todayand it is AMAZING! The book describes how everyone, all over the world carries around an invisible bucket. And when your bucket is full (of good thoughts and feelings about yourself) you feel happy. But when your bucket is empty, you feel sad and lonely.

The book goes on to explain how we can fill other’s buckets (and, in turn, fill our own) and become “bucket fillers”.

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It also tells how there are some people who try to take good feelings from others’ buckets, thinking they can fill their own buckets but that will never work. These people are known as “bucket dippers”(i.e., bullies).

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This has been great for Huff the Tot! I’ve read it to her several times and she has said, on more than one occasion, “Mommy, I {insert something here such as “pick up my toys”, “draw you a picture”, or “build you a castle”} and I will fill your bucket up!”

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There are a TON of activities on the book’s website as well as on Pinterest! So you can keep the learning going with fun coloring pages or crafts! I think this would be a GREAT porject for an elementary school class as well! Heck, I think everyone in the nation could use some bucket filling nowadays!

 

Have you ever read this book? What did you think? Have you read one that covers the same premise? Share in the comments below!