Her’s Day Thursday

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Summer is here which means trips to the beach, the pool, and the water park. While many of us are super excited to don our swimsuits, not everyone feels the same. I know I struggle A LOT with body acceptance and how I feel I look. This week, I read an article about a mom that used her daughter’s “no filter moment” as a way to teach about body acceptance and what “fat” really means. I thought this was a great reaction and also wondered if there were any resources for moms of girls/girls themselves to help them accept their bodies the way they are and celebrate their uniqueness! Here are some great items I came across:

 

No Body’s Perfect by Kimberly Kirberger

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Just one glance at the summary of this book proves it is a must-read for tweens and teens: “…powerful stories and poems from real teens, as well as personal tales and advice from the author, this book strives to help girls learn to accept, love, and appreciate their bodies–and, in turn, to love themselves.”

 

A Smart Girl’s Guide to Liking Herself , Even on the Bad Days by Laurie Zelinger

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This book is from a series of “self-help”-type books for girls from the creators of the American Girl doll line. There are several books that deal with issues all kids will face: bullies, drama, trouble with friends, getting along with siblings, and doing well in school. This particular book helps girls understand the emotions they are feeling, how to work through them, and also how to control their emotions and trust themselves.

 

Beauty & Self-Esteem Dice Game: Rockin’ Your Body Image for Self-Esteem Groups

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This printable game from the Teachers Pay Teachers store, Mental Fills, is a great way to get girls to open up and talk about their body issues in order to improve the way they feel about themselves. According to the TPT site: “Rock ‘In Your Body Image is a dice game that helps identify and dispute body image distortions in an effort to improve body image and self esteem. Helpful activity for eating disorder behavior, and self confidence improvement for individual and girl’s groups.”

 

The Care and Keeping Of Us Cara Natterson

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I know, another American Girl book. BUT, this one is too awesome to not talk about! This book is actually three books in one and helps to foster communication between girls and their mothers: “…there’s so much for moms and girls to talk about. But how do girls ask the questions they need answers to, and what words can moms use to answer those questions? Here’s the solution! This kit includes twin books, one for girls and one for moms, filled with dozens of how-to-say-it scripts to get the conversations going. These scripts give girls the words to talk about all the big topics from body basics, hygiene, and healthy habits to friends, first-love crushes, clothing, and more. And mom’s book gives her the actual words to respond to her girl’s questions, as well as scripts to initiate important conversations with her daughter. Plus, a sharing journal lets both moms and girls jot down everything from jokes, memories, and must-remember moments to thoughts, questions, and even to-dos. Two bookmarks are included to guide each other to the latest entry or point out something they don?t want the other to miss. The journal becomes a great keepsake, and the books will be a hand-me-down resource to treasure. Kit includes: The Care & Keeping of Us: A How-To-Say-It Book for Girls, The Care & Keeping of Us: A How-To-Say-It Book for Moms, and The Care & Keeping of Us: A Book for Girls and Their Moms to Share.”

 

Have you read any of these? Do you have a resource/book/game that YOU use to help your daughter? Share in the comments below!

Her’s Day Thursday

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Y’all know that I am all about strong women and raising Huff the Tot to be a self-assured, hard-working, kind girl that turns into an amazing woman. This is why I try to find books and shows that highlight strong female characters. I am super excited because Nick Jr. just started a new show called Nella the Princess Knight!

 

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According to the Nickelodeon website, Nella “…isn’t your average princess, but she is a princess-knight — a hero unlike any who have come before her. Working with loyal knight Sir Garrett, his trusty steed Clod and glamorous unicorn Trinket, Nella breaks barriers, challenges expectations and fights for justice every time the group heads out on an adventure. No matter how tough of a challenge she faces, 8-year-old Nella always stays true to herself through her determination, power and courage. The preschool series features a social-emotional curriculum intended to foster relationship development and empower preschoolers to be courageous.”

I love this so much! I just wish we had cable so Huff the Tot could catch some of the episodes. (Come on, Netflix, help a momma out!) Just check out this teaser trailer:

 

The show debuted on February 6th and is on every morning at 9:00 a.m., CST!

Have you watched with your Little? What did you think? Share in the comments below!

Her’s Day Thursday

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A few weeks ago, my sister and I took Huff the Babe to storytime at our local Barnes and Noble. To my happiness, the theme of storytime was Star Wars! Perfect for us, right? I pictured HtB sitting and listening as the man dressed as an X-Wing pilot told us all about what would happen if you gave a Wookie a cookie and how to train like a Jedi. That, however, did not happen.

My child decided to throw a tantrum and run like a rabid monkey all over the store. Sigh. While I didn’t get to listen to the story, I did have time to chase my kid all around the children’s area and look at the books she tossed off the shelves. That’s when I came across this:

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I was so excited! Not only was this book about Lucille Ball (a personal hero of mine) but I saw that the author, Brad Meltzer, had an entire series about important women (and men) throughout history! I’m so excited to get these books for my little Gryffindor!

He has a book about Amelia Earhart:

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And Rosa Parks:

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He also has Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, and Jackie Robinson. I know that its important for my daughter to have important male role models, but I was so ecstatic to see books for really young kids all about influential women!

Brad Meltzer also has another best-selling book titled, Heroes for My Daughter.

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This book contains fifty-five stories about important folks throughout history including: Marie Curie, Sally Ride, and Jane Gooddall! I may have to buy this one for her too!

 

Have you read any of these books? Have you read them to your little lady? Do you know of any other “girl power” books a young girl should have on her shelves? Share in the comments below!

Mommy Monday

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When I first became a mother, I knew there were going to be some moments that I would absolutely love. I knew I would delight in my child and be so excited when she reached milestones. I also knew it would be tough.

But I had no idea it would be as tough as last week*.

As I said in blog last Monday, I thought Huff the Babe was ready for potty training. All of the signs were there! So we started. And it. Was. HORRIBLE. She cried, I cried (A LOT) and I felt like a failure for “giving up” after two days.

Then, on Thursday, I noticed she started coughing and I could hear the phlegm rattling in her chest. I took her to the pediatrician (whom I LOVE) and determined she had a cold. While we were there, I asked the doctor to give her a check-up. When she did, we discovered the poor little Gryffindor has labial adhesion.

“That’s pretty bad,” the doctor said. “And if we don’t treat it, it can cause major problems with potty training.”

My heart sank. I knew HtB knew how to potty and knew when to potty, but the poor thing didn’t want to potty; it hurt too badly.

I felt like even more of a terrible mother. Not only did I subject my poor Gryffindor to the emotional stress of potty training, but I didn’t realize she was in pain. And now, we have to put a cream on her, twice a day for 2-4 weeks. This means holding her down while she kicks and screams, “No way!” as I try to not poke her and hurt her even more while trying to help her with medicine she needs.

Y’all, my heart breaks every time I have to do that. I can’t even begin to explain the torment. I know that the cream will heal it and she probably won’t remember this time of her life, but I will. I will remember having to apply the medicine and how her little eyes filled with tears.

This is the part of motherhood that really sucks.

I’m just hoping and praying that this season passes quickly and my little sweetie will be back to normal soon.

(*Please note that I’m not writing this as a way to throw myself a pity party. This is just an outlet for me to get my feelings out. I know that there are probably other moms out there who have gone through this and maybe you have some advice to share that will make it easier. Also, I had NO idea about adhesions in little girls; no one ever talked to me about it! I’m hoping to get the word out so future moms of little girls know what to look for, because I was completely in the dark.)

Writer Wednesday

Typically on Writer Wednesdays, I like to share a short story, a journal entry, or some general help for writers out there.

Today, though, I wanted to write–well, rant— about something different.

Monday night, Huff the Hubs and I were sitting in the living room, watching The Voice (btw, I’m really digging the new energy Pharrel and Gwen Stefani are bringing to that show). During one of the commercial breaks, there was a short ad for the makeup line, Wet n Wild.

As most of us ladies know, that is one of the cheaper brands of makeup/one of the first cosmetics we ever bought as teens with our own money because we could actually afford the $1.50 mascara and $2.00 lip gloss. (LipSmackers was for the wealthy.)

As I watched the commercial, my first thought was: “Oh wow! Wet n Wild is finally doing commercials! I’ve never seen a commercial for them before!”

Then, as the ad played on, I started to get angry.

Why?

First, the ad starts out with young women wearing skin-tight pleather outfits, clearly in a club. Now, when I was younger, WnW was seen as tween/teen line. That was the makeup before you got older and wised up that other brands were better. So I cringed at the thought of 12 and 13-year old’s seeing this commercial and thinking, “Oh, I want to look like that!”

Then, the commercial continues and we see Girl A looking at Girl B enviously. Girl A starts to do her makeup exactly like Girl B to which Girl B loses her cool and starts fighting with Girl A.

I felt as though this commercial was saying: “Compare yourself to others and try to be EXACTLY like them” as well as “If someone tries to be like you/steal your look, slap them with your purse and start a fight for no good reason because they’re not worthy.”

The ad continued with similar circumstances until it finally came to an end, being replaced by a toilet paper commercial and leaving me with my mouth open and eyes wide.

I don’t know if its my new child-centric brain that I’ve acquired since I had a child, or the fact that I’m still all fired up from Emma Watson’s speech at the UN yesterday, but I feel as though this commercial (among many) is sending the absolute WRONG message to our girls. I’m not calling for a boycott of the products or anything like that. I’m all for the free market and the right to advertise your business. However, I feel as though commercials and advertisements like these are setting us back as a society.

Have you seen the commercial?

Watch the commercial below and give me your take:

 

What do you think?