Huff the Babe recently turned two. If you’ve never been around a two year old, its a lot like this:
So, needless to say, when we go out in public it takes a lot of mental and physical preparation. Basically, make sure you’ve stretched, properly hydrated, and have on clothes you don’t mind being stained.
Sometimes when we’re out to eat or shopping I can easily ignore his and Huff the Tot’s bickering, whining, or begging for things. Other times, I don’t handle it so well. Mostly because of the looks I get from other people. So when I saw this video circulating on Facebook, it really hit home:
Y’all, we’ve GOT to support each other. Motherhood can be such a rewarding role. But its also really, really hard sometimes. And you know what makes it even harder? Eye rolls, deep sighs, judgy stares, and “whispered” comments to other people. These things just make us feel like failures. And guess what? About 90% of the time, most of us already do feel like we’re failing: we’re not feeding our kids healthy enough, we allow them to watch too much TV, or we’re not spending enough time with them.
Here are some simple ways we can show support to other Mamas:
Give a knowing smile to a mom that’s dealing with a tantrum-throwing toddler.
Tell her, “You’re doing great, Momma!”
Call up a mom friend and offer to watch her littles so she can go grocery shopping in peace. (And then maybe she’ll even return the favor later!)
If your house isn’t equipped for little ones, tell the mom you’ll go with her and wait in the car with the kids while she runs errands! (I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had people do this for me! IT. IS. AMAZING.)
Buy a $5 gift card to Starbucks and keep it in your wallet. If you’re out and about and see a mom having a rough go of it, slip it to her so she can treat herself later.
If you see a mom with a restless kiddo and you’ve got your kiddos too, offer to walk around with her at the store so the kids can keep each other company and entertained! Who knows, you (and the kids) might even make a new friend!
If your kids are in school and you don’t work, call up a mom with littles and ask if she needs anything. Even if she says she doesn’t need anything, at least she knows you were thinking about her!
Buy a momma and her kiddos lunch while you’re out to eat. (This one could get a little expensive, BUT, if you get say, a Chick-Fil-A gift card and add a little money here and there, you can totally do this!)
Do you have a neighbor that has kids? See if they want to go for a walk with you.
I love it on those rare occurrences that both of my children are calm and listening when we venture out and about. I also love it when a stranger compliments them on their behavior. I know it encourages them, but it also REALLY encourages me. So if you see a kiddo doing great, recognize it! You will absolutely make that mom’s day–I guarantee it.
Do you have any other ways to encourage moms? Share in the comments below!